Men take ejaculation for granted. It's like a 'liquid-trophy' of man-hood, and the source of your future legacies and heirs. But cast your mind back to that very first time you managed to squeeze some 'Gentleman's Gel' from the end of your 'young chap'. With females the climax has always been much harder to tell. After all, the female orgasm never had such a visible finale, or so you've been led to believe. A skill possessed by most females but in reality admitted and permitted by few, female ejaculation is one of those few remaining taboos and 'un-tapped' delights of the 21st century.
You all know that your girl can’t help but spill the beans on your 'sexploits' to her close circle of friends. She'll be all too eager to divulge your size, expertise and finishing techniques, but never be fooled into thinking she's dishing the dirt on herself. It's strange but there are still some subjects considered too taboo to share over a bottle of wine, and depositing her 'load' seems to be up there with rimming and fisting. In truth you are more likely to hear a guy discuss the pleasures of female ejaculation than you ever would a woman History dating back as far back as the 2nd Century has detailed the ability of females to ejaculate during sex. Yet often when seeking medical counsel from doctors, gynaecologists, and psychiatrists, these anxious ladies were invariably told they were incontinent and needed either surgery or psychotherapy. In fact what these ladies are actually achieving is the absolute pinnacle of female sexual pleasure. An ejaculatory orgasm, or 'squirting' as now commonly referred, which renders them well and truly spent! Most of us ladies who have experienced an ejaculation initially believed we've suffered from a leaky bladder. Lots of females, under thorough interrogation or clever coaxing will admit to having had an experience where they believed they'd 'leaked' during sex.
The feeling of ejaculating is not dissimilar to peeing, a shower of warm wet liquid and a feeling of intense release. Once released, the actual ejaculation itself can be a mind-blowing experience for both partners. Not only does the female get 'THE' most intense orgasm, but also the lucky partner gets some serious dousing of love-juice. The amount of fluid 'squirted' can vary considerably in volume. Most Doctors have settled between the 5ml and 100ml volume. In reality many men are fascinated with this so-called 'phenomenon' adding to the growing 'ejaculating super-female' urban myth. But a price does have to be paid for all this pleasure. First of all it can present a new slant on the question of 'who sleeps on the wet patch?' Especially when we are not talking about just a lovin' spoonful, but up to half a pint.
There are a few ground rules to undertaking your quest. Do not set out believing there really is such a thing as the 'ejaculating super-female'. Most women can ejaculate but many don't. In the same way that all women can orgasm even though some don't, be it through physical or mental blockage, or just plain in-experience. When you guys first engaged in a 'five knuckle shuffle' you got a result. It may have taken a while before you managed to produce your 'baby gravy', but you still got hard and it captured your affections. The climax has always been much more hidden and complex in females, and as such, a source of infinite frustration in men. Giving rise to that ever popular question 'How was it for you?' You seem to need to ask us!
Like in Yoga where one is taught to almost reverse ones breathing pattern, in sex the female needs to control another inbuilt reflex. The building of the 'ejaculation' does feel very much like a desire to pee and as soon as the urethra starts to tingle, second nature kicks in. When squeezed The Pubococcygeus Muscle (try get your tongue around that!), prevents the bladder leaking. It is crucial for your girlfriend to oppose this contraction and actually bear down against it. This is not an easy concept to get your head around because if you bear against the muscle that prevents you peeing, surely that means you do. Not in this instance it seems. Contraction of the muscle in this instance actually stops an orgasm from building; pretty much the same way as squeezing the base of the penis does in men. It does not prevent further ejaculation, just postpones it. This is the first barrier you need to deal with. Remember the hunt for the clitoris? Well if that equalled gaining an 'A' level qualification, getting your girlfriend to 'squirt' for the very first time is like obtaining a PhD.
The ejaculation itself does come through the urethra, the same tube used for urination. It is located just outside the vaginal opening. If you spread your ladies inner labia and trace your finger from just inside her pussy, up towards the clitoris, after about half an inch you can find a tiny hole. Almost a needle in a haystack, especially if your lady is unshaven. This is where the ejaculation fluid exits, but not where it originates. That's the job of the 'Skene Gland'. The equivalent to a male prostate, which produces seminal fluid in males and it's hidden between the G-spot and the clitoris. Although some insignificant traces of urine are evident, the composition is not that dissimilar to the fluid produced by the male prostate to keep all those hungry little 'baby-makers' alive during male ejaculation. The fluid can appear like either watered down milk or can be clear in composition. It in no way offers any contraception as the fluid is expelled outside the vagina. Therefore the only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing any previous best.
Ejaculation can take place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, thus providing a magical 'third' orgasm An ejaculation results from manipulation inside the vagina, as per a vaginal orgasm, but with an added jackpot. Giving the female an amazing double whammy orgasm. Sometimes after ejaculation the female can virtually pass out from the after-glow of forceful feelings. But don't worry, unlike men, there's usually more to follow. Give her a few minutes and she'll be filling up like the office water cooler. Obviously a starting point to your crusade is required. It usually helps to wait until your lucky lady is already aroused before declaring your honourable intentions. Each orgasm will deliver a different volume of liquid in all manner of directions and velocity. This can range in spectacle from a trickling 5ml to a turbulent 200ml .
Start off slowly with lots of foreplay, for both parties. Manoeuvre her onto her back with you positioned between her thighs. Using your fingers and tongue stimulate her clitoris. Wet your fingers and tweak her nipples to really get her going, whilst executing the best cunnilingus skills you can muster. When you sense her starting to get aroused, insert two fingers inside her with your palm facing upwards. Enter your fingers up to the second knuckle and bend upwards to create an L shape. Now gently probe around until you find a rough surface approx 2 inches in length. This is the G-spot and is located directly behind the clitoris. Keep measuring her responses. Heavy breathing, deep moaning and contractions around your fingers are a good indication that something is working. When you feel her start to bear down, begin pumping your fingers faster. At some point hopefully your girlfriend will experience a desire to pee. This is what you are both aiming for. If she can bear down and positively encourage this, and your handy-work has been sufficient, things should get very wet.
If your girlfriend does manage to ejaculate it will, rest assured, catch you both by surprise. This is a significant moment for both of you, and if it's either party's first time, you will remember that moment of impact forever. The truly amazing bonus that evolution has granted us finally superior to males is that we can do it again and again. Be aware that in the same way we can have multiple orgasms, we can also have multiple ejaculations. Intensity and amount of fluid may vary with each individual orgasm until our supplies are depleted, but the sensations just get better. Your girlfriend may not ejaculate every time she orgasms, and indeed a case is even documented where a lady approached her gynaecologist believing she was ill because it had stopped happening.
Pressure on the female to deliver can be intense, and can prevent ejaculation in the same way it happens to men. Relaxation, an open mind and willingness are the three key factors. If these elements all click the final result will most likely be the most pleasurable and intense orgasm she has ever experienced. Now just imagine being the guy able to deliver that! After ejaculating your girlfriend will obviously, and hopefully, be a bit delirious for a few moments. It passes way too quickly so let her enjoy it before commencing with your wicked-way. She probably will want you to continue in a few seconds, or she may wish to have a breather. But I'm sure you will also wish to take a couple of seconds to comprehend the aftermath.
As for achieving other ejaculations beyond this point, it's a bit like riding a bike (hopefully without the grazed knees). There is a surprise finale to all this activity. Your girlfriend's need to finally pee. If confirmation that she did not pee was needed, Mother Nature doesn't fail. It is quite possible to drain a very full bladder after having also ejaculated up to 250ml and it always raises a wry smile on my face.
